Steps to self-care when someone you love has committed suicide

Death by suicide is devastating for the people who loved the deceased – it is sudden, unexpected and a tragedy. The loss of a life, the loss of a person overcome by social and psychological circumstances is a disaster often brought about by situations outside one’s control, leaving young people, parents, grandparents, friends and their families behind to grieve.

When a loved one dies by suicide, your grief and other emotions can overwhelm you. You might be consumed by guilt — wondering if you could have done something to prevent your loved one’s death. Other emotions can include shock, anger, despair, confusion and feelings of rejection. 

You may also experience physical symptoms, such as loss of appetite, nausea, abdominal pain, changed bowel habits, alteration to your normal period pattern, tremor, headaches, sleeplessness, palpitations and chest pains. These are only some of the reactions which can occur. Each person’s experience is different.

As you face life after a loved one’s suicide, remember that you don’t have to go through it alone. Download our self-care help sheet here.

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